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Coaxial
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Posted: May 17, 2018 - 4:39pm

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Mothers and fathers. My brother was my father's namesake and was killed in an auto accident when he (my brother) was 21. But, I will say that despite the fact that our lives were changed forever, we all, my parents most admirably, lived full and happy lives afterward. I miss my brother every day, of course.

 
{#Hug}Terrible thing to go through...So sorry.
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Posted: May 17, 2018 - 4:38pm

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How old were you when your cousin passed away? I cannot fathom what your poor uncle went through, having to witness that. {#Meditate}
 
CC_Rider: Thanks.


 
I was 9 in the summer of 1962...Yes, to watch as your nephew is electrocuted would be horrifying.
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Posted: May 17, 2018 - 1:28pm

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My father drank heavily the first year after my brother's death. My mother lost a number of friends who couldn't handle the reality of a child's death.

I had a dream shortly after my brother's death ... I walked to school every day right by the entrance to the Emergency Room where he was taken, and in the dream he walked out to meet me. I was so happy to see him, and we hugged tightly. He said, "I can't stay, but I just wanted you to know that I'm okay." Yes. My subconscious talking, I know. I wish I still dreamed about him.

 
It's really sad to hear that your mother lost some friends because of that. What are friends for? And i can certainly understand your dad drinking heavily. Your parents seem to be very nice folks, from what i gather from some of your precious posts about them.
 
About your dream. I think it's more than just your subconscious. The fact that he said, "I can't stay" to me says more. Had you just simply dreamed that he was ok and everything was back to normal, that might have been your subconscious. Just MHO. {#Good-vibes}

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Posted: May 17, 2018 - 12:44pm

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I didn't mean to minimize a father's grief. From my experience, i've seen that mothers tend to take it harder. Carrying a child in your stomach for 9 months gives a woman an intimacy that no man can experience. And i think it's even harder the younger the child is.
 
I think your use of the word 'admirably' is spot on. It is quite admirable for your parents to recover from that tragedy. It says a lot about them. Unfortunately, some take it harder. My sister, it took her many years before she could re-enter the workforce and live a 'normal' life. She had a strong husband. I felt sorry for him, because he had to be strong for her.
 
And my sister had a dream about a month before her son passed away. She told of it to our youngest sister when she had the dream. She was in her bedroom, laying in bed. Her son showed up at her bedroom door, all dressed in white. And he said to her, "It's alright, mom. I'm ok". (Or something like that, i forget the exact words)


 
My father drank heavily the first year after my brother's death. My mother lost a number of friends who couldn't handle the reality of a child's death.

I had a dream shortly after my brother's death ... I walked to school every day right by the entrance to the Emergency Room where he was taken, and in the dream he walked out to meet me. I was so happy to see him, and we hugged tightly. He said, "I can't stay, but I just wanted you to know that I'm okay." Yes. My subconscious talking, I know. I wish I still dreamed about him.
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Posted: May 17, 2018 - 12:35pm

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Mothers and fathers. My brother was my father's namesake and was killed in an auto accident when he (my brother) was 21. But, I will say that despite the fact that our lives were changed forever, we all, my parents most admirably, lived full and happy lives afterward. I miss my brother every day, of course.

 
I didn't mean to minimize a father's grief. From my experience, i've seen that mothers tend to take it harder. Carrying a child in your stomach for 9 months gives a woman an intimacy that no man can experience. And i think it's even harder the younger the child is.
 
I think your use of the word 'admirably' is spot on. It is quite admirable for your parents to recover from that tragedy. It says a lot about them. Unfortunately, some take it harder. My sister, it took her many years before she could re-enter the workforce and live a 'normal' life. She had a strong husband. I felt sorry for him, because he had to be strong for her.
 
And my sister had a dream about a month before her son passed away. She told of it to our youngest sister when she had the dream. She was in her bedroom, laying in bed. Her son showed up at her bedroom door, all dressed in white. And he said to her, "It's alright, mom. I'm ok". (Or something like that, i forget the exact words)

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Posted: May 17, 2018 - 11:48am

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Grief can really strike hard at the mothers. I've seen that with my oldest sister when she lost her oldest boy at 12. That was one funeral i went to. I babysat that nephew a lot in his first few years of life.

 
Mothers and fathers. My brother was my father's namesake and was killed in an auto accident when he (my brother) was 21. But, I will say that despite the fact that our lives were changed forever, we all, my parents most admirably, lived full and happy lives afterward. I miss my brother every day, of course.


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Posted: May 17, 2018 - 10:23am

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Yes...Once again, so sorry for your loss.

 
How old were you when your cousin passed away? I cannot fathom what your poor uncle went through, having to witness that. {#Meditate}
 
CC_Rider: Thanks.

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Posted: May 16, 2018 - 6:54pm

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Grief can really strike hard at the mothers. I've seen that with my oldest sister when she lost her oldest boy at 12. That was one funeral i went to. I babysat that nephew a lot in his first few years of life.

 
Yes...Once again, so sorry for your loss.
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Posted: May 16, 2018 - 2:34pm

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A 21 year old kid passed away last Friday. Accident at work. You don't want to know how. Broke my heart when I found out the details on Monday morning. We know him because my wife tutored him for a while some years ago. He was just a little boy struggling at school. He always had a smile. Always cheerful. A really nice kid. My wife went to the visitation last night. She told me she saw him in the casket. Well, that did me in.

Thanks for your thoughts and concerns. I'm ok. I'll be laughing about something at work today, I'm sure. Life goes on. {#Meditate}

 
Aw man, that's terrible. Industrial accidents are awful. I worked in a couple big machine shops, thankfully never witnessed anything significant, but the old-timers had stories.

best wishes.
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Posted: May 16, 2018 - 2:07pm

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Sorry to see this. Sending vibes of understanding your way.{#Meditate}Loss is always hard but when one so young is involved it really hits home. My oldest male cousin was electrocuted in front of his uncle at a when he was 19...My Aunt cried everyday for the rest of her life...Her daughters, one older, one younger, could ever put their mother together again. It was the saddest thing to see on our yearly trips to Grandma's house.

 
Grief can really strike hard at the mothers. I've seen that with my oldest sister when she lost her oldest boy at 12. That was one funeral i went to. I babysat that nephew a lot in his first few years of life.
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Posted: May 16, 2018 - 6:11am

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A 21 year old kid passed away last Friday. Accident at work. You don't want to know how. Broke my heart when I found out the details on Monday morning. We know him because my wife tutored him for a while some years ago. He was just a little boy struggling at school. He always had a smile. Always cheerful. A really nice kid. My wife went to the visitation last night. She told me she saw him in the casket. Well, that did me in.

Thanks for your thoughts and concerns. I'm ok. I'll be laughing about something at work today, I'm sure. Life goes on. {#Meditate}

 
Sorry to see this. Sending vibes of understanding your way.{#Meditate}Loss is always hard but when one so young is involved it really hits home. My oldest male cousin was electrocuted in front of his uncle at a cotton gin when he was 19...My Aunt cried everyday for the rest of her life...Her daughters, one older, one younger, could ever put their mother together again. It was the saddest thing to see on our yearly trips to Grandma's house.


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Posted: May 16, 2018 - 2:10am

 SeriousLee wrote:

A 21 year old kid passed away last Friday. Accident at work. You don't want to know how. Broke my heart when I found out the details on Monday morning. We know him because my wife tutored him for a while some years ago. He was just a little boy struggling at school. He always had a smile. Always cheerful. A really nice kid. My wife went to the visitation last night. She told me she saw him in the casket. Well, that did me in.

Thanks for your thoughts and concerns. I'm ok. I'll be laughing about something at work today, I'm sure. Life goes on. {#Meditate}

 
Oh man, I'm so sorry. 
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Posted: May 16, 2018 - 2:01am

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I wish to say something. But i have a heavy heart tonight. {#Sad}

 
A 21 year old kid passed away last Friday. Accident at work. You don't want to know how. Broke my heart when I found out the details on Monday morning. We know him because my wife tutored him for a while some years ago. He was just a little boy struggling at school. He always had a smile. Always cheerful. A really nice kid. My wife went to the visitation last night. She told me she saw him in the casket. Well, that did me in.

Thanks for your thoughts and concerns. I'm ok. I'll be laughing about something at work today, I'm sure. Life goes on. {#Meditate}
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Posted: May 15, 2018 - 8:31pm

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In my limited experience, funerals are all about those of us who are left
 
Yes. And there are valid reasons for staying away, often for those closer to the person they're more than valid, they're imperative. If it is going to cause more hurt to yourself or someone else, it's fine to stay away. If you want to go, go. There really should be no judging about the roll call. But like haresfur's link says, it can be a minor inconvenience to us but it can mean everything to someone who's hurting.
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Posted: May 15, 2018 - 7:14pm

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I wish to say something. But i have a heavy heart tonight. {#Sad}

 
{#Meditate} 
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Posted: May 15, 2018 - 7:00pm

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I wish to say something. But i have a heavy heart tonight. {#Sad}

 

{#Good-vibes} courage, friend
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Posted: May 15, 2018 - 5:21pm

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I wish to say something. But i have a heavy heart tonight. {#Sad}

 
{#Hug}
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Posted: May 15, 2018 - 5:05pm

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Do what's right for you, but here's a different perspective. Peace.

Always go to the funeral

 
I wish to say something. But i have a heavy heart tonight. {#Sad}
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Posted: May 15, 2018 - 4:41pm

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Do what's right for you, but here's a different perspective. Peace.

Always go to the funeral

 
Nice. I must remember it. I’ve not gone to some that I should have, merely because my grief (for my loss, not the one that was the reason for the funeral) can be so unwieldy.
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Posted: May 15, 2018 - 4:38pm

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Do what's right for you, but here's a different perspective. Peace.

Always go to the funeral

 
I've been to three in my life; one of which was my mother.

In my limited experience, funerals are all about those of us who are left, not the departed. Just my experience/opinion.

I personally wish not to have a funeral, maybe a wake. Celebrate what I meant to you - or not, do not mourn the fact that I am gone.
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