I appreciate the words of advice, and would take them in the real world and use them. Here, it couldn't be more clear that if you're not like minded, you're not one of the group. Someone should tell the employee who creates the cliffnotes, this one was an epic fail.
It feels like I'm carrying a ham at the end of my arm.
Injuries you recover from make you stronger and wiser. I've had enough to know. When you go through hell, there's not any tolerance left for the the BBs. I don't know what awaits, but I'm pretty sure this is a survival of the fittest moment. I'd post a photo of myself, but I would be so angry about the insults. This is the first time I met a crowd like this. A few of you seem tolerant, but I sussed out that if one dar keep an open mind, the crowd will surround and attack. I should write an article about this site, but there are weak spots that i would want to protect. If you knew what I do....
I'm not all that web savvy myself. This was and is my first and only online presence (as far as anyone knows. )
When I first came here I embarrassed myself because I took something someone posted personally when it really wasn't.
Like I said, I had no experience and in 2006 this place was flush with posters, so many sorely missed. At least a couple of dozen really regularly engaged and prior to me there had been many more that for one reason or another had moved on.
We had the Bush wars raging and then the Obama wars then facebroke tweeter etc etc. The place was decimated by formerly regulars leaving for whatever reason (some occasionally drop by to say hello and others grace us by dropping by to bash whatever makes them happy bashing) but the effect is that the forum has slimmed way down and many of the membership is suspicious and protective of the joint.
Our extremely tolerant hosts monitor but don't get involved in other than the most egregious examples of adults behaving badly.
As to the treatment you received, I'm not defending them or condemning you . What I am saying is that when I first became aware of your posts you were combative and impatient.
Even though this is only a virtual community I would think it wise to get a feel for it, the regular interacting members. Find the battle lines, work both ends to a good place as regularly and as often as possible. Meet some in real life. Fall in love with their children and animals and language and culture if foreign and make a bed for yourself you don't mind lying in.
In a word it is intimidating to come to a place like this. There is a ton of previous history. It is totally skewed ideologically but it can also be an accepting place.
Personally I despise fighting and mostly I don't get involved because I can be direct and it serves no purpose to try to change things said in haste. More than that I despise disrespect. There is plenty of both here but you wont change one perspective with righteous indignation.
You might actually change your perception and move up a rung along the way. Ego and the internet mix like oil and water...
Mostly I just love music...so much.
I love how so much philosophy resulted from an odd response to a nearly three year old post of mine.
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Apr 2, 2020 - 9:47pm
oldviolin wrote:
Even though this is only a virtual community I would think it wise to get a feel for it, the regular interacting members. Find the battle lines, work both ends to a good place as regularly and as often as possible. Meet some in real life. Fall in love with their children and animals and language and culture if foreign and make a bed for yourself you don't mind lying in.
In a word it is intimidating to come to a place like this. There is a ton of previous history. It is totally skewed ideologically but it can also be an accepting place.
Personally I despise fighting and mostly I don't get involved because I can be direct and it serves no purpose to try to change things said in haste. More than that I despise disrespect. There is plenty of both here but you wont change one perspective with righteous indignation.
You might actually change your perception and move up a rung along the way. Ego and the internet mix like oil and water...
Mostly I just love music...so much.
Very nicely put. So much of the internet has become a place where the game is to show up, say something to get attention (including hyperbole and disrespect and trolling) and then bask in the inevitable attention. Thatâs a stale, hollow way to be.
The breadth of knowledge and background here can be subtle, and only with some delicacy and time can people realize that these arenât adversaries here, but other folks with a similar interest. They love music....so much.
So, if someone comes in and immediately starts wildly swinging, looking to get some ego points, they wonât last long and will be quickly ignored or marginalized. The group does a good job of maintaining their own comfortable homeostasis, and no one or two people are going to disrupt much for very long.
So instead of adversaries, think of the group as compadres. Weâre all in it together - with differing perceptions of how the world is and should be and not afraid to express those perspectives - but with the same soundtrack, the one that keeps us here.
Yeah, we're lucky to have him and even luckier because he stuck around even while all of the things he described were going on.
A real breath of fresh air he is and if you are not careful, he can be very inspiring.
You are too kind, Kurt. I have my own bag of rocks you can be sure but I'm trying to be ok with who I am, rocks and all...I've lived a long time. A really long time. I can't explain that except that here and now is where I'm supposed to be. I want it to count for the right reasons so I'm cashing in my rocks one song at a time; one mansion at a time...
It feels like I'm carrying a ham at the end of my arm.
Injuries you recover from make you stronger and wiser. I've had enough to know. When you go through hell, there's not any tolerance left for the the BBs. I don't know what awaits, but I'm pretty sure this is a survival of the fittest moment. I'd post a photo of myself, but I would be so angry about the insults. This is the first time I met a crowd like this. A few of you seem tolerant, but I sussed out that if one dar keep an open mind, the crowd will surround and attack. I should write an article about this site, but there are weak spots that i would want to protect. If you knew what I do....
Im not all that web savvy myself. This was and is my first and only online presence (as far as anyone knows. )
When I first came here I embarrassed myself because I took something someone posted personally when it really wasn't.
Like I said, I had no experience and in 2006 this place was flush with posters, so many sorely missed. At least a couple of dozen really regularly engaged and prior to me there had been many more that for one reason or another had moved on.
We had the Bush wars raging and then the Obama wars then facebroke tweeter etc etc. The place was decimated by formerly regulars leaving for whatever reason (some occasionally drop by to say hello and others grace us by dropping by to bash whatever makes them happy bashing) but the effect is that the forum has slimmed way down and many of the membership is suspicious and protective of the joint.
Our extremely tolerant hosts monitor but don't get involved in other than the most egregious examples of adults behaving badly.
As to the treatment you received, I'm not defending them or condemning you . What I am saying is that when I first became aware of your posts you were combative and impatient.
Even though this is only a virtual community I would think it wise to get a feel for it, the regular interacting members. Find the battle lines, work both ends to a good place as regularly and as often as possible. Meet some in real life. Fall in love with their children and animals and language and culture if foreign and make a bed for yourself you don't mind lying in.
In a word it is intimidating to come to a place like this. There is a ton of previous history. It is totally skewed ideologically but it can also be an accepting place.
Personally I despise fighting and mostly I don't get involved because I can be direct and it serves no purpose to try to change things said in haste. More than that I despise disrespect. There is plenty of both here but you wont change one perspective with righteous indignation.
You might actually change your perception and move up a rung along the way. Ego and the internet mix like oil and water...
It feels like I'm carrying a ham at the end of my arm.
Injuries you recover from make you stronger and wiser. I've had enough to know. When you go through hell, there's not any tolerance left for the the BBs. I don't know what awaits, but I'm pretty sure this is a survival of the fittest moment. I'd post a photo of myself, but I would be so angry about the insults. This is the first time I met a crowd like this. A few of you seem tolerant, but I sussed out that if one dar keep an open mind, the crowd will surround and attack. I should write an article about this site, but there are weak spots that i would want to protect. If you knew what I do....
I'm not all that web savvy myself. This was and is my first and only online presence (as far as anyone knows. )
When I first came here I embarrassed myself because I took something someone posted personally when it really wasn't.
Like I said, I had no experience and in 2006 this place was flush with posters, so many sorely missed. At least a couple of dozen really regularly engaged and prior to me there had been many more that for one reason or another had moved on.
We had the Bush wars raging and then the Obama wars then facebroke tweeter etc etc. The place was decimated by formerly regulars leaving for whatever reason (some occasionally drop by to say hello and others grace us by dropping by to bash whatever makes them happy bashing) but the effect is that the forum has slimmed way down and many of the membership is suspicious and protective of the joint.
Our extremely tolerant hosts monitor but don't get involved in other than the most egregious examples of adults behaving badly.
As to the treatment you received, I'm not defending them or condemning you . What I am saying is that when I first became aware of your posts you were combative and impatient.
Even though this is only a virtual community I would think it wise to get a feel for it, the regular interacting members. Find the battle lines, work both ends to a good place as regularly and as often as possible. Meet some in real life. Fall in love with their children and animals and language and culture if foreign and make a bed for yourself you don't mind lying in.
In a word it is intimidating to come to a place like this. There is a ton of previous history. It is totally skewed ideologically but it can also be an accepting place.
Personally I despise fighting and mostly I don't get involved because I can be direct and it serves no purpose to try to change things said in haste. More than that I despise disrespect. There is plenty of both here but you wont change one perspective with righteous indignation.
You might actually change your perception and move up a rung along the way. Ego and the internet mix like oil and water...
It feels like I'm carrying a ham at the end of my arm.
Injuries you recover from make you stronger and wiser. I've had enough to know. When you go through hell, there's not any tolerance left for the the BBs. I don't know what awaits, but I'm pretty sure this is a survival of the fittest moment. I'd post a photo of myself, but I would be so angry about the insults. This is the first time I met a crowd like this. A few of you seem tolerant, but I sussed out that if one dar keep an open mind, the crowd will surround and attack. I should write an article about this site, but there are weak spots that i would want to protect. If you knew what I do....
It feels like I'm carrying a ham at the end of my arm.
Injuries you recover from make you stronger and wiser. I've had enough to know. When you go through hell, there's not any tolerance left for the the BBs. I don't know what awaits, but I'm pretty sure this is a survival of the fittest moment. I'd post a photo of myself, but I would be so angry about the insults. This is the first time I met a crowd like this. A few of you seem tolerant, but I sussed out that if one dar keep an open mind, the crowd will surround and attack. I should write an article about this site, but there are weak spots that i would want to protect. If you knew what I do....
I have my own bag of rocks you can be sure but I'm trying to be ok with who I am, rocks and all...I've lived a long time. A really long time. I can't explain that except that here and now is where I'm supposed to be. I want it to count for the right reasons so I'm cashing in my rocks one song at a time; one mansion at a time...
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